“WHEN YOU’RE IN THE DARK, IT’S DARK……” (Serena Ryder)

Today, on this particular date of Jan 28,  people in general are encouraged to break down the stigma of depression, and talk about it.   Mental health issues are so very real for over 40% of us.   I just finished watching the Marilyn Denis show, and learned so much about this time of darkenss that happens to so many of us.    This show encourages us to “socialize the issue”.

If you have read my previous blogs, you will know that November is the month that I find myself swirling into the vortex of darkness, as the days grow shorter and life in general seems so grey.  Apparently, adults are better able to mask depression.  I try very hard to keep busy, start new projects, read good books, have good thoughts, and above all, use the Sun Lamp.

One important aspect from this show that I picked up on as well is that we should try very hard, every day, for one minute, to really listen.  Sit down with your child / spouse / parent / friend, and ask:  “How are you?  Really….how ARE you?”  And for one minute, just listen.  The letters that make up the word “listen” are the same in the word “silent”.  Interesting.  When we interact, we have 2 choices:  to be confrontational in opposition, or confrontational in alliance.  How easy it is to polarize issues by being judgmental, rather than opening up and attempting to understand.  Yes, preaching to the choir here!

Thank you, Marilyn Denis for an excellent program today, and for providing some insightful wisdom.  There is a link:  http://crisisline.ca/ which could be helpful should anyone need that support.

If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation. Depression just is, like the weather. Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the otherside. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest noblest and best things you will ever do.  Steven Fry

Finally, one last note:  such important words to hear….from Phillipians 4:8  – Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.